Apabila hilangnya rasa malu....

Anak akan mula mengangkat suara dan kurang ajar terhadap ibubapa akibat lunturnya malu.
Pelajar mula tidak hormat kepada gurunya apabila sudah hilang malu.
Lelaki mula melangkah ke tempat maksiat akibat dia membuang perasaan malu.
Perempuan mula tidak sopan di khalayak ramai kerana pudarnya malu.
Si gadis mula mempamerkan diri di khalayak ramai apabila kendurnya malu.
Pasangan bercinta mula berjumpa dan bercanda kerana mereka sudah tidak malu.
Orang ramai mula meminta-minta jawatan apabila cairnya malu.
Pengguna jalan raya mula melanggar peraturan jalan raya dan bersikap tidak beradab apabila kurang rasa malu.
Masyarakat mula dihinggapi perasaan ingin popular seperti artis dan menyanyi melalak terlolong akibat tidak malu.
Pemimpin mula menganggap jawatan dan amanah sebagai batu loncatan mengaut keuntungan apabila pudarnya malu.
Pemerintah mula melakukan kezaliman, juga akibat dari hilangnya rasa malu.

Kenapa Ada Cinta?

Kenapa cinta?

Mungkin kerana zaman remaja adalah zaman yg paling optimum, paling sesuai dan paling masak ranum untuk bercinta..tgk pulak rakan-rakan sekeliling..semuanya berteman, semuanya berdua.. semuanya bercouple…maka perasaan ingin tahu membuak-buak..

“aku pun nak rasa cmne bercinta, cmne ade boifren..cmne ade gulfren..nanti klu tak suka, bleh clash bila2"

Agaknya itulah yang kebanyakan remaja rasakan…inkuiri yang tinggi..perasaan ingin tahu, ingin mencuba dan ingin merasa..namun akhirnya menjerat diri bila soal hati dan perasaan menjadi taruhan..lagi menyedihkan apabila maruah dan masa depan diperjudikan bila sudah mabuk cinta..bila sudah hanyut dalam cinta..mata dan hati menjadi buta… org ckp apa pun dah tak guna, dah tak makan saman..semuanya kerana cinta..

“buang emak buang saudara, kerana kasih aku turutkan”

Kenapa Cinta?

Mungkin juga kerana pengaruh tv dan movie..setiap cerita dan kisah yang terpapar di tv dan vcd, semuanya pasti di selitkan dgn kisah-kisah cinta..paling tak leh lawan cite hindustan..cikgu kaunselor saya masa sekolah dulu pernah cakap..

“kalu bleh takyah tgk cite hindustan..byk berkhayal..nnt awak pun turut sama berkhayal”

Wohoo!..mungkin jugak betul..berkhayal sekali..depa menyanyi dan menari kat dlm tv..kite kat depan tv pn rasa nak joget sekali goyang-goyang kaki..iya tak? rasa terbuai sekali, oh..indahnya cinta!..dan bila depa sedih, tup3 kite kat depan tv nie pun turut sama meleleh air mata…kan? kan?

"seperti aku jua ada pengalaman serupa.."

Kenapa Cinta?

Mungkin juga kerana fitrah semula jadi manusia..yang di ciptakan berpasang-pasangan..seperti juga adam yang hidup bahagia di syurga..semuanya sempurna..semuanya ada di syurga namun adam tetap juga kesepian..lantas Allah ciptakan Hawa untuknya..sebagai peneman hidup..dan hakikatnya, kita anak cucu nabi adam juga tak lari dari perasaan yang sama..tuntutan hati yang ingin di sayangi dan menyayangi..

“oh..indahnya cinta~!!”

Teringat puisi yang pernah saya cipta suatu masa dulu..

"Cinta..putiknya rindu sudah menyakitkan, apatah lagi bila ianya kembang lalu layu..kelopaknya gugur ke bumi satu persatu…”

Hurmm..jiwang bleh tahan jugak saya nih..but..well…love is pain..dan makin kuat kita sayangkan seseorang itu, makin kuat juga perasaan takut kehilangan..bukankah bila kita cintakan seseorang, akan ada rasa rindu? dan rindu kepada sesuatu yang bukan milik kita, bukankah ianya menyakitkan? selagi dia tidak melafazkan ucapan ijab dan kabul..selagi dia tidak melafazkn akad..maka dia bukanlah milik kita dan kita juga bukan milik dia..maka untuk apa rasa cinta itu? untuk apa rasa rindu yang menyakitkan itu? tiada gunanya..


Cinta Kerana Allah

Ana uhibbuka fillah..aku mencintainya kerana Allah…Alhamdulillah jika ianya benar..tapi banyak mana yg mampu mencintai seseorang kerana Allah..mampu menyintai Allah lebih dari org yg dia cintai? jika anda tidak mampu untuk berbuat demikian..maka batalkan dulu niat untuk bercinta…

“cinta itu manis dan indah namun cinta itu juga mampu menjadi racun yang membinasakan..”

Apakah Hukumnya Bercinta Sebelum Nikah?

Saya bukanlah ustazah…so bab hukum hakam ni saya tak mampu cakap apa.. ada adik-adik bertanya kepada saya soalan yang cenggini..jawapan saya mudah..

“soal hati bukannya bleh di paksa..akak faham..tp kalu bleh, tolak tepi dulu soal cinta dan fokus kepada study dan famili dulu yer, kejar cita-cita sebelum mengejar cinta”

itu la jawapan saya..mungkin fikir nak mudah tapi itulah yang terbaik, insyaAllah..

*post ni aku edit dari artikel dari iluvislam.com...

A Letter From A Christian to Muslim Women

I see you as precious gems, pure gold, or the “pearl of great value” spoken of in the Bible (Matthew 13: 45). All women are pearls of great value, but some of us have been deceived into doubting the value of our purity.

Jesus said: “Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you” (Matthew 7: 6).

Our pearls are priceless, but they convince us that they’re cheap. But trust me; there is no substitute for being able to look in the mirror and seeing purity, innocence and self-respect staring back at you.

The fashions coming out of the Western sewer are designed to make you believe that your most valuable asset is your sexuality. But your beautiful dresses and veils are actually sexier than any Western fashion, because they cloak you in mystery and show self-respect and confidence.

A woman’s sexuality should be guarded from unworthy eyes, since it should be your gift to the man who loves and respects you enough to marry you. And since your men are still manly warriors, they deserve no less than your best.

Our men don’t even want purity anymore. They don’t recognize the pearl of great value, opting for the flashy rhinestone instead. Only to leave her too!

Your most valuable assets are your inner beauty, your innocence, and everything that makes you who you are. But I notice that some Muslim women push the limit and try to be as Western as possible, even while wearing a veil (with some of their hair showing).

Why imitate women who already regret, or will soon regret, their lost virtue? There is no compensation for that loss.

You are flawless diamonds. Don’t let them trick you into becoming rhinestones. Because everything you see in the fashion magazines and on Western television is a lie. It is Satan’s trap. It is fool’s gold.

A Woman’s Heart

I’ll let you in on a little secret, just in case you’re curious: pre-marital sex is not even that great. We gave our bodies to the men we were in love with, believing that that was the way to make them love us and want to marry us, just as we had seen on television growing up.

But without the security of marriage and the sure knowledge that he will always stay with us, it’s not even enjoyable! That’s the irony. It was just a waste. It leaves you in tears.

Speaking as one woman to another, I believe that you understand that already. Because only a woman can truly understand what’s in another woman’s heart. We really are all alike.

Our race, religion or nationalities do not matter. A woman’s heart is the same everywhere. We love. That’s what we do best. We nurture our families and give comfort and strength to the men we love.

But we American women have been fooled into believing that we are happiest having careers, our own homes in which to live alone, and freedom to give our love away to whomever we choose. That is not freedom. And that is not love.

Only in the safe haven of marriage can a woman’s body and heart be safe to love. Don’t settle for anything less. It’s not worth it. You won’t even like it and you’ll like yourself even less afterwards. Then he’ll leave you.

Self-Denial

Sin never pays. It always cheats you. Even though I have reclaimed my honor, there’s still no substitute for having never been dishonored in the first place.

We Western women have been brainwashed into thinking that you Muslim women are oppressed. But truly, we are the ones who are oppressed; slaves to fashions that degrade us, obsessed with our weight, begging for love from men who do not want to grow up.

Deep down inside, we know that we have been cheated. We secretly admire and envy you, although some of us will not admit it.

Please do not look down on us or think that we like things the way they are. It’s not our fault. Most of us did not have fathers to protect us when we were young because our families have been destroyed. You know who is behind this plot.

Don’t be fooled, my sisters. Don’t let them get you too. Stay innocent and pure. We Christian women need to see what life is really supposed to be like for women. We need you to set the example for us, because we are lost. Hold onto your purity.

Remember: you can’t put the toothpaste back in the tube. So guard your “toothpaste” carefully! I hope you receive this advice in the spirit in which it is intended: the spirit of friendship, respect, and admiration.

From your Christian sister 'with love'.

By Joanna Francis

Writer, Journalist – USA

A letter from a Christian to Muslim women
March 7th, 2007
By Joanna Francis
Writer, Journalist – USA

*credit to the writer and person yg post kat web iluvislam...
if other can see that we are so special...but why many of us are too blind to see it....
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